How to Pick the Perfect Song for the First Dance

August 8, 2017

How do I find the perfect song for our perfect dance?

  • Choose your dedicated song for each other
  • Remember songs that played during key moments in your relationship
  • Pick a song from a common favorite artist
  • Pay homage to your parents by choosing the song that played during their first dance
  • Decide on what kind of dance you want to do on your wedding
  • Listen to the lyrics to find out which is the most appropriate for a wedding


Love is a big emotion, which is why celebrating it should also be grand. From hiring the best wedding catering in Manila to booking your favorite local artist, there’s nothing you wouldn’t do in order to showcase your love at the wedding.

But it is also this complex emotion that will make it hard for you to decide on the perfect song for the first dance, for your first dance. This is because, in all honesty, there are just too many romantic pieces for you to choose from; all of which can potentially give you and your partner something to enjoy during your big day.

Now, the question of how you are going to narrow them down should be answered. But don’t worry because we’re here to help you out. Just follow these simple tips:

Choose “Your” Song

Choose “Your” Song

No doubt, if you and your fiancé have a song that you consider to be “your song” for each other, then there may not be any need to look any further. That is, if the song is fitting for a dance. If not, then you may need to dig a bit deeper much like those other couples, who don’t have any dedicated song, and look on to the other tips below.


Remember Romantic Moments with Music in the Background

Think back to the most epic moments in your relationship. Usually these are your firsts: the first date, the first time you held hands, the moment you realize you’ve fallen in love, etc. Try to remember if there was any music playing that amplified your emotions and made your heart explode during these romantic episodes in your life.

Who knows? That certain song or piece could work its magic again for your first dance.

Look at Your Favorite Artist’s Repertoire

Look at Your Favorite Artist’s Repertoire

Maybe you and your fiancé have a common favorite artist or, even better, have seen said artist perform live in concert. Whether you listen to a whole discography or remember what he/she played in their live set, you will most likely find that one song that is special to you and your partner.

Be sure to pick one that can be your favorite, the one that speaks volumes about your relationship, and the one that can showcase your love to each other (that words simply can’t express). If this song also happens to have a good feel and/or beat to dance to, then you’ve found the perfect piece.


Uphold Tradition and Heritage

If your parents and/or grandparents still remember the song they danced to, then considering re-using it. While the first dance is usually done to celebrate the newly bound couple, it doesn’t mean that you can’t also celebrate the bond created in the past.

By playing the same song that was playing in your parents’ or grandparents’ wedding, you can pay homage to the bond that kept you alive and guided you through life to be who you are today – the same person that your fiancé fell in love with in the first place.

You can say that, without your ancestors, you may have never ended up with the love of your life.

Decide Based on the Type of Dance You’ll Do

Decide Based on the Type of Dance You’ll Do

Just like the song, the type of dance that you choose to do must be special to you and your fiancé. Most couples choose to do a slow dance, but you could be a bit more creative than that. Especially, if you and your partner have a love for dance, you may choose to do a rumba, waltz, or even hip hop dance. Whatever you choose, the song must fit the dance.

Listen to the tempo of your favorite songs for dancing and use this as requirement for the song you will choose. If a song has meaning to you, but it doesn’t fit the style of dance you want, then you may need to reconsider it or cross it off your selection. Once you have a shortlist of songs, try dancing along to it and see what feels the best.


Write Down All the Possibilities and Read the Lyrics

Once you have a short list of all the potential first dance songs, you’re going to want to read all the lyrics. This is important because beats and melodies could sound happy, but the lyrics could be pretty inappropriate for a union.

Many, if not most, love songs are actually about breaking up. You don’t want to accidentally pick a break up song for the first dance to send your guests and yourselves an ominous message that the relationship won’t last. You would want something that will celebrate it and strengthen it instead.


Key Takeaway

Deciding the perfect song for your first dance is all about choosing something that has meaning. Any song that is special to you, your fiancé, and your family has potential. Just be sure that it is fitting for a wedding.


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